Stories that speak to our hearts often speak our core truths. But do all stories speak the truth?
What about some of the ‘stories’ that as children we internalized — the ones that pierced our hearts like poison darts, the ones that made us believe that we were unlovable, that we weren’t worthy of anything? We felt abandoned, rejected. And as these stories play into our heads into adulthood, we live our lives accordingly. We are unlovable so our relationships falter. We aren’t deserving of anything so we always have financial difficulties. We fall ill because we desperately want attention. Everything seems out of reach, no matter what we do. We just can’t seem to create the joyful life we’ve always desired.
In the opposite direction, we are determined to overcome those stories that so programmed us, so we jump on the treadmill of lift and run as fast as we can. We think we are living a full life, pushing ourselves past the stories, but then the treadmill breaks and we are catapulted into an abyss from where we have to claw our way out.
Does any of this resonate with you? Were those stories speaking truths? I think not, but we believed them because we were impressionable children when we heard them. They came from the adults who we looked up to or from others whose acceptance we sought. So to our innocent minds, those stories were truths.
But they weren’t. In actuality, they were false truths, not lies, but untruths, most likely based in the emotional wounds of the people stating them. Perhaps your mom had withheld love from you because she hadn’t received love from her parents. Perhaps your dad always told you that you shouldn’t try to rise above your station because he wasn’t able to. Or a friend had been beaten by her father because she hadn’t made good enough grades in school, so she called you stupid.
Or maybe the story was based on statistical evidence of the past. For example, your doctor told you that you would never heal completely from your affliction. His or her diagnosis was based on the stories of others before you with the same affliction who had not been able to fully heal. One of my neurologists told me that I would always have residual stiffness in my body due to my stroke. Yes, I know that stiffness can be one lifetime symptom of having a stroke, but that is the story I plan on changing in me. You see, I feel that we can change our stories by changing the expression of our genes.
I’m not going to give into the story that has been given to me, and I feel that I have found the solution to my problem…tapping or EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques), a technique I believe will help me remove the story that the doctor was trying to imprint in my mind. In the little time that I have been working with it, it has helped to alleviate some of my anxieties that seem to still be stuck in my body. So this will be my success story, my truth! I am going to rewrite my story!
What about you? What story in your life would you like to rewrite?
ABOUT THE AUTHOR: Erica Tucci had a full life as a corporate manager of a Fortune 500 company, a healing arts business owner and an author. It all came to a screeching halt in June 2011 when she had a stroke. She has since gained much wisdom about what’s really important in life and she realized her true passion was her writing. Her hope now is that the messages of her books will be an inspiration for others, young and old. Her books include Moms and Their Young Spirited Boys (1998), Anything is Possible, a novel based on a true love story (2011), Zesty Womanhood at 40 and Beyond (2011), Radiant Survivor: How to Shine and Thrive through Recovery from Stroke, Cancer, Abuse, Addiction and Other Life-Altering Experiences (2013), and Sarah’s Gift series for 7-12 year olds (2016). For more information or to order one of her books, visit www.ericatucci.com, www.sarahsgiftseries.com and www.radiantsurvivor.com.